Many years ago when I was in Silicon Valley, someone asked one of our mentors what was his one most important advice for business leaders to succeed? He replied:
“Too many people want to be Steve Jobs and believe behaving like an a**hole will help them build a billion dollar business. So here’s my advice…. You’re not Steve Jobs, and nobody wants to work for an asshole. So don’t act like one.”
I sometimes meet “leaders” who are rude for no obvious reason at all, to show dominance over other people, as though they are afraid that their position as the boss will be threatened.
That is not a sign of strength, it’s a sign of weakness and insecurity.
Leaders with true strength feel secure knowing that others count on them to lead. That’s the only path to a loyal and motivated team.