Happiness = Reality – Expectation
If reality is worse than your expectation, you’re unhappy. If reality is better than your expectation, you’re happy. And guess what? You can’t control reality but you can control your expectations.
People who are constantly unhappy probably imposed some expectation on themselves or on others that are not aligned with the reality of life. I always find the easiest way to get through a rough patch is to tell yourself “It’s supposed to be like this, it’s not about easy or hard, it just is like this.”
And you can accept this, find ways to improve and be happy. Or you can constantly fight an emotional battle that you will not win.
Adjusting our expectations changes our emotional state.
It’s not about giving up and not doing anything to make your life better. In fact, it’s the opposite. You can’t improve your life if you’re not seeing clearly and burdened by unhelpful emotions.